There is no more important role we can have than to be a parent. That being said, the world expects a lot of us in other roles of our life, like at work and in relationships. However, if you and your spouse have decided that divorce is the right thing to do, how do you help your kids get through it? Here are a few things kids need during a divorce.
Kids need the parent to be the adult. Understandably, kids are going to be upset to hear about this big change in their lives. However, the parent needs to step up and offer support, but also boundaries and guidance, to ensure that their kid can handle the changes as best as possible. Limiting a child's exposure to other changes in their life can help to keep the rest of the world around them stable, thus making the change easier to handle.
One thing that's important for parents of children experiencing divorce to do is to keep an even playing field. No child should ever feel like the "middle man" in the divorce proceedings. Keep them out of the arguments and details of the divorce as much as possible. This can help to keep your child's relationship with both parents happy and healthy.
When it comes to deciding the child custody arrangement, it may be much easier if the above three tips were adhered to. Beyond causing stress in your child's life, unhealthy behaviors during a divorce can cause the child custody process to be more difficult. Consider all parties in the decisions your make while going through a divorce. A child's best interests should be a top priority.